Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 15

Day 15

Thank you.

The “Let’s Stop Rape” campaign is a project that kicked off with an intentional to bring more awareness to the issue of Rape. In the past 15 days we have touched on a few things which inludes:

The definition of Rape
The position of the law
Anybody can be a victim: No one is full proof
Every one is a possible suspect: Be alert and aware.
What to do as a victim
Your responsibility to the work and much more..

The work is for everyone to do and the way to start is with people around you by creating the necessary awareness to stop it. We must consciously raise our young  boys and girls to respect people and train them to be responsible for their actions and the good of everyone.

I appreciate everyone that was part of this campaign in one way or the other either by sharing or liking the contents daily. I’m sure your contribution goes a long way.
Thank you.

I will be launching out by doing more of this via other social media platforms. This will be very influential in achieving the desire. By the grace of God I hope we can have short videos/skits, a song, a documentary and possibly a movie. Invitation to schools will be a consideration. I hope this campaign can be taken to schools or places where youths are present.

You can lend your support in different ways. Plug into the idea to stop rape and find out how or where you can fit in. Prayers and words of comfort will go a long way so you don’t have to wait till you are fully set to participate.

You can contact me via WhatsApp(only) 234 8159911801 or send an inbox message via adeoyegabriela@yahoo.com .

I encourage you to continue this drive and let’s stop rape. Thank you again and watch out for more in the year ahead. Enjoy and have a great  year 2018 ahead.

Thanks.

Ayo Adeoye

Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 14

Hello friends.
We are at the last stage of the campaign "Let's Stop Rape". Today we call for commitment from all stake holders. Your commitment is required. Read and share . Like and comment. Thank you.

Day 14

The commitment

This is a call to commitment to everyone because we all have a part to play. Parents need to commit to teach and train their children in the way of the Lord that they may not depart from it. Adults need to make a commitment to protect the young girls and boys from being victims of rape. Young boys at this stage and time make a firm commitment to stand against rape. Your commitment ought to be to God and not just a mere verbal utterance without proper follow up. We must all stand in defence of the vice that secretly creeps into our homes like a terror and take the joy  of a loved one. Stand against it. Let’s stop Rape.

A man or woman who rapes or sexually assaults another is malfunctioning and ought to be fixed. The right one to fix a malfunction is the creator/designer - God. The only way to God is through Jesus Christ. believe in Jesus Christ and He will make you a new creation.

Make a commitment to God now. Make a commitment to God that you will not rape or be an accomplice to rape.

Thank you.

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Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 13

It's day 13 of the "Let's Stop Rape" campaign. It's not too late to be a part of it. Today we look at what is a seeming lasting solution. Please read, share, like and tweet.

Day 13

Just a word: solution in male responsibility.

The Male gender is key: there has been more reports of rape or sexual assault committed by men than women. This means the man/male child should be responsible for himself never to rape someone. As ready made suspect, they should be trained to perceive rape as evil. He should be taught to have self confidence and respect for other people. Teach him to be a man.

Who is a man?

 A man is designed by God with strength(more physical strength): every man is designed to have physical and mental strength. the strength is innate and must be properly channelled. when idle and not properly channelled, it is used for all kinds of vices which may include rape.
The male strength is given for these three main reasons:

To Create- God has given man the strength to create and not destroy. He uses his strength to chat new paths for victory. He uses his strength to build others up for achievements. It is why kids see their dad as their first hero. A real man creates.

To Lead- he has the strength to lead people to their potential. created in an image of a head, he is to lead himself and his family to fulfil their purpose. It is natural with man to lead. He leads to safety, to abundance, to restoration etc. He has a natural disposition to lead and leaders take responsibility for whatever is within their reach or influence. A real man leads in the right direction.

To Protect- every man uses his strenght to protect from danger. He wants to protect and defend the people he loves from evil. He does not want anything to happen to whatever is his. He is strong so he can protect. A real man protects from evil.
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Strength is never for destruction: it is a perversion and abnormal when you see men who destroy.  Men who destroy are actually living against their God design. This perversion usually occurs when a child is not trained in the way of the Lord. While the strength seeks to be free to try out everything (good and evil) there is a responsibility the parent has which is to help him focus on the good. If it is learned by discipline early and he’s used to it he will not leave it. A real man does not destroy. Rape is destruction. A real man does not rape.

Parents have a responsibility to train up young boys to become men. They should be thought to live responsibly and fulfil the position of responsibility they have. A parent should not leave out the discipline and training of a male child no matter how precious he is perceived to be. He is to be taught and it must be done consciously. This training is to include how to think constructively to be a builder of walls and not a breaker. You must train your male children so that they will not engage in such a vice as rape. As we do this early and teach them to respect others, we stop rape in our community. Train your child.

As a male child who is growing to be a man, you must equally be 3responsible for all  decisions. Every decision has consequences and the consequences are not determined by an offender.  Before you act, think carefully through it and weight the consequences against the immediate benefits. No matter what training you lack as a kid, you must be responsible for yourself now. Your life is in your hands and should not be left to someone else’s mistake. Pi3355ck yourself up and be determine you will be a godly man. One who loves, creates, leads right and protects but never destroys. Be a man.

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Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 12

This is the 12th day of the "Let's Stop Rape" campaign.  We conclude on what should be done in case there is a rape (You may need to see day 11 for previous points) as We deal with the internal effects. It is serious and requires personal commitment.
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Day 12
A Rape victim is always plunged into another state of life that is entirely  different from her normal usual self. The play back of The event mixed with the pain and helplessness makes it difficult to move on and it fills the heart with hate, grief, fear and unforgivness. Today, we look at how to get away from that strange place you suddenly find yourself and that strange person you have become.

-Take it to Jesus Christ: Jesus said “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest”- Matt 11:28 (NKJV). Those words are real and they are true. There is rest for every soul that comes to Jesus. Rest is that place of tranquillity, a place where you find peace inspite of so much that life is throwing at you. Only a walk with Jesus Christ can offer the peace that brings healing, clarity and direction. It is better experienced than described as words fail to express the reality of it.

You have to take it all to Jesus. He will meet at your very point of need. He will fill the vacuum and emptiness you feel within you. He will pull you out of the miry clay and slimy pit and wash away every shame you feel and set you on solid rock and give you a new song to sing. Take it that this ought to be a walk and not just a one time contact. You should have a close walk with Him through every momemt and phase of healing. The devil will always try to remind you of that past as you are being healed but as you walk closely with Jesus, He will comfort you and give you a new and beautiful experience always. He will replace the shame with joy and glory. Take it to Jesus.

-Forgive: I agree that forgiveness is a difficult pill to swallow at this stage but it is a necessary for complete healing to happen. when you forgive, you take away the weight and burden of wrath you feel. The burden of not forgiving the rapist limits you from giving full expression in worship to God which includes your livelihood. To forgive is to cancel every wrong you hold against someone. Its like picking an arrow and shooting far away into the sea where you cannot find it anymore. It is not as easy as stated but through faith in God, you can find strength to forgive as you have been forgiven through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. If you have been forgiven much then you have to forgive. You will not forget but the power that forgiveness will give you will supersede the bitterness that remembering ought to bring.

Forgiveness is first personal and with the Lord so you don’t need to see the person before you forgive. You can forgive without ever meeting the person again. Whenever and wherever you forgive, it is a chance for you to get your victory, freedom and strength back from the person. You deserve to be joyful and you will find it as you forgive.
Chose the path of victory and forgive the rapist. You can.

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Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 11

Hello friends, it's Day 11 already of the "Let's Stop Rape" campaign. If you're just joining, it's not too late. Today's topic is very important. Grab a seat and read then like, comment, share and tweet. Let's Stop Rape.

Day 11
In the event that one is a victim or you have a victim around you, there are a few things that can help. While it is going to be a devastating time or period, one thing that must be consciously done is to try to be in control of yourself and the situation. You have to be strong beyond the emotional trauma and take immediate steps to be in control in order to do these things and get your life back. It’s not as easy as it sounds but you have to fight for yourself. Let’s see some of the actions below that answers the question...

What if I become a victim?

-  Talk to someone you can trust: this is a very important step to start with. talk to someone no matter what threats have been given by the rapist. Most threats are false and will only be stopped when you report. The person you pick or decide to talk to should be someone who is mature and that you can trust. Someone you know will stand by and with you through the new phase of life you have just been thrown into. Maturity is not by post or position so it does not necessarily have to be a clergyman as some may castigate rather than lift up. Sometimes it’s that mature aunty withiin your reach who is sincerely interested in you. Do not be afraid to speak. While you may be ashamed and uncomfortable to speak to a member of the opposite sex, if that is the better option to talk to then do not hesitate to do so.

- Report at the police station/ human right agency: for the sake of prosecution the incident must be reported at the nearest police station. Approaching a human rights organisation is also important because they will take it up and take you through every step to prosecute the perpetrator(s). The judiciary may have been slack on these matters in years past but have become more committed  to it because of the human right activities.j Do not be afraid to report at the police station and get in touch with agencies that can help. The rapist must be nabbed and prosecuted. Do not be bullied to step down from fighting for justice to take it’s course.

- Have a check up at the hospital: there must be an immediate visit to the hospital to affirm the claim of rape and for proper treatment and cleaning against unwanted pregnancy. The affirmation is to get a report from the hospital before any clean up is done personally so that you get a report confirming rape. Such report serves as evidence in court to prosecute the rapist. This is very important and should not be considered unimportant.
The other side of it is to check for any injuries and treat same. In the event that there is/are tears, the hospital will offer appropriate treatment. There will also be proper care to avoid any unwanted pregnancy from the rape. Please do not shy away from visiting the hospital. It is very important and should be done fast. You may not be able to tell the extent of damage personally.

-See a professional counsellor: It helps alot to have some sessions with a counsellor (a trained one). Such sessions will help you understand where you are and get you back on track. It is not all pastors that have the required skill to counsel on this kind of matter. A trained counsellor will separate the emotions from the right decisions to be taken and will gradually restore back to stability with little or no sense of loss.
A trained Christian counsellor will be my recommendation because s/he should help you walk with God through the journey.

We shall continue from here tomorrow.  Please join in this campaign “Let's Stop Rape. Please share, comment, like and tweet.

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Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 10.

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There is a spiritual dimension to every individual. This spiritual position for the Christian must be understood in order to benefit from it. Day 10 of the “Let's Stop Rape” campaign shows us a little of that.
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Day 10
- The leading of the Spirit: This a special  arrangement available to every believer in Christ Jesus. The presence of the holy Spirit in the believer give him the privilege of being led. To be led is to be influenced by the holy Spirit. This influence includes giving directions and Instructions even in specific activities.  The leading of the Spirit can be very specific and detailed. He can tell you where to go or not to go. When to be somewhere or not. The Holy Spirit can even lead you out of danger.
As much as this is available to every believer to benefit from, it is not everyone that benefits from it. To benefit from the leading of the Spirit you must learn to keep in step with the Spirit. This is real and shouldn't be shoved aside. You will only get better at doing so as you yield to the Holy Spirit.
To know more, talk to a Christian that understands this beautiful provision.

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Thank you.

Let's Stop Rape campaign. Day 9

It's another beautiful day and it's the 9th day of the "Let's Stop Rape" campaign.  We continue on the measure we can take to prevent rape. We consider the use of a common device as an option.

Day 9
- Self defence: Self defence is the act of defending yourself when you are in a helpless situation. It is acceptable in the court if proven irrespective of the outcome/damage on the person. You should learn how to defend yourself. It is a skill that can be learnt and will come in handy at times when someone attempts a rape. You can try Taekwando or Judo, Boxing or kick boxing.

You should also work at being fit. Register with a gym if necessary and be disciplined with your routine. Physical fitness also improves your mental alertness.

- Keep a speed dial: A speed dial is when you have a contact on your phone registered to a particular figure/button such that you just have to press only that button to dial the number stored to it. Every phone can keep a speed dial.

This is like a last resort to take when it seems you are  out of option. You do a speed dial without allowing the rapist know and start talking loud for your receiver to hear and swing to action as fast as possible. This means the person on your speed dial must be someone smart and patient, able to deduce what is going on and act on it as fast as possible. When the issue is out of control, you use your phone which will not bring any suspicion.
I guess we can figure out other thoughtful ways we can use our gadgets as security helps in times of difficulty.

You have a responsibility in this matter to protect yourself and your loved ones. Remember that a rape culprit can be masked in a simple and helpful look. It is better to be prepared than to be caught unawares.
Let’s stop rape.

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We will look at the last and dynamic way to be protected from rape. You shouldn't miss it.
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